In the swinging lifestyle, there are open and honest lines of communication. It is never assumed that just because you are in the swinging lifestyle that everyone is always open and up for anything.
Therefore, you must always ask permission before doing anything. If you don’t ask, you don’t know!
Here are 2 examples of people asking, where one says no, and the other says “Hell YES!!”.
Scenes from Playboy TV Swing Season 2, episode 7. And Playboy TV Swing, Season 2, episode 8.